In praise of praise
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Praise is powerful stuff. It can help you increase the productivity and morale of your team.
But too many managers don't praise enough or praise indiscriminately. Here's a look at what we know about praise and how to do it well.
What we know about praise
There are a lot of myths and misinformation floating around about praise. Many of them constitute the "old wives' tales of management." But there are some things we know.
Great bosses tell us that praise is one of their power tools. In my work with top performing supervisors I found that great supervisors praise more and more creatively than their less successful peers.
Workers tell us that praise is important. According to Gallup's research: "Employees who report that they're not adequately recognized at work are three times more likely to say that they'll quit in the next year." Alas, they also tell us that only about a third of them have received any praise from their supervisor in the last seven days.
Psychologists tell us that praise is a powerful, but specific, tool. Use praise to get people to try something new or to continue something that they're learning or that's difficult.
Biologists tell us that praise causes the release of dopamine in the brain. Dopamine is a chemical that creates feelings of pride and pleasure.
Social scientists tell us very few people get much praise at work even though there are solid business benefits. Gallup studied over five million workers and concluded that those benefits include lower turnover and higher productivity.
But not just any praise will do. There's a bit of technique to master.
What we know about how to give good praise
Just understanding why praise is important and powerful is not enough. You only get the benefits when you do the job right. Here are some guidelines.
Praise should be tied to clear expectations and performance standards. Without these praise has no context or meaning.
Praise should only be given for something praiseworthy. Don't praise just to praise. Praise behavior, including effort. Praise excellent performance or performance improvement.
Praise should be appropriate. Most of the time a simple "good job" is all that's needed. More significant things might merit an email, a handwritten note, or something more formal or public.
Praise should be specific. Tell your team member what he or she did that merits the praise. Tell them why it matters.
Praise should be prompt. The closer in time you are to the behavior or performance you're praising, the more effective your praise will be.
Praise should be given inconsistently. Praise does seem to lose power if every good behavior gets a mention.
Praise should match your team member's preferences. Praise people in ways that matter to them. Be especially sensitive to your introverts who may prefer private praise to public recognition.
Nothing here is new. So why do so many workers go so long without praise? Why is there such an imbalance between positive and negative comments by supervisors?
Why don't managers praise more?
I've been training new supervisors and coaching leaders at all levels for almost thirty years. I've heard lots of comments and questions about praise. The reasons managers say they don't praise seem to fall into three groups.
Some managers think that you shouldn't praise unless to also mix in "constructive criticism." Nope.
Think about how we encourage babies who are just learning to walk. We praise and encourage without a hint of "constructive criticism." There are times when you want to mix the two, but when the behavior or performance call for praise alone, praise away.
Some managers think that if you praise someone a lot, he or she will quit working hard. Whenever I hear this one, I ask the questioner if he or she would work less after praise. In thirty years, no one has ever said they would.
If this comes up in a classroom situation, I ask everyone in the class if praise will make them slack off. Again, in almost thirty years no one has ever said they would quit working hard if they got praised.
Some managers worry about praising "too much." That's a legitimate concern. You praise too much any time you praise something that's not praiseworthy. You praise too much when you lavish praise on something that isn't significant.
Think about it. If two thirds of American workers aren't being praised at all, you've got a long way to go before you get to "too much."
Praise is a power tool.
Great supervisors tell us that praise is a power tool. They use praise to help their team members grow and develop. They use praise to improve morale and productivity. They praise well and their praise helps make their teams great.
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Thinking about the first and second reasons why managers don't praise more, it seems like you're describing insecure managers. They're probably afraid that praising employees might make them vulnerable.
Combining praise with criticism as a failsafe: if an employee ever says "hey, but last time you praised me", the manager can reply "yes, but I also had some "constructive criticism" for you."
Praise as an excuse to work less: I can confirm from personal experience that praise is a very strong motivator. But again, if a manager is insecure, praising somebody looks like taking a risk. What if they make a compliment or say "thank you" and tomorrow the employee messes up?
You mention that praise has an important impact on productivity. This is something that can be measured and documented with figures and statistics. But I think that real praise is only possible if a manager feels good about himself as a person and in his role as a supervisor. This is soft and therefore hard to measure.
But I guess that's exactly where you come in as a coach and trainer
Thanks for this great post!
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Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.
I'm not sure that insecurity is the cause as much as the way most managers who are currently in place were brought up and the role models and advice they've received.
The big issue for me right now is that we don't give new managers any help in the mechanics of talking to team members for either praise or correction. They're left to work it out for themselves with vague advice from books and other managers.
The good feedback I get on my Working Supervisor's Support Kit often mentions the specific technique for talking with team members. There needs to be more of that out there.
We also know from research that a person's first boss has an extraordinary impact on the leadership style the new person develops. We can help those who become new managers by supporting good managers in their teaching/mentoring role and rewarding them for it. We can help people coming in to the workforce and headed for leadership by making sure the "first bosses" are among our best.
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Wally –
Nice primer on praise. Very carnival worthy.
I’ve had the same experience training supervisors and managers. Someone will bring up the concern about “overdoing it” when it comes to praise. I use the same approach you do to respond. I ask “OK, who’s been praised just way too darn much by their manager lately?” I’ve never hand a hand go up to that question either.
Dan
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Thanks for stopping by and adding that, Dan. It seems like a good question to both make the point and lighten the atmosphere.
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Hey Wally,
Great piece [is this me praising you for your piece?]!! In all reality, more and more, managers need to understand how to rule by praise and smiles vs. fear and rules. As I have written about on my own site, I stress managing to outcomes not the process in my work life. This show of trust and faith in people is much like a silent form of praise, not to say that I don't overtly and publicly praise as well, in that it shows my team just how much I respect them and their abilities. Anyway, it never hurts to hear great advice reiterated!
Thanks,
Nina
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Thanks for adding that, Nina. Human beings thrive when they get praise for praiseworthy work. They thrive in environments where their contributions are recognized. You're right. It's easy to get lost in the process and forget that people are where productivity and competitive advantage come from.
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What a great post Wally. I cannot believe we still need to explain why praise is so important. I cringe when I hear praise that goes along the lines of "that was great but.." it is heartsinking. And don't get me started on "constructive criticism".
I took part in a leadership development programme where we learned to hear how the person felt something had gone before the rest of us pitched in with suggestions for doing different ( not necessarily better) next time. I have applied this in a praise situation too just before I say what I think!
We all need a good dose of "appropriate praise" from time to time.
Jackie
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Thanks for sharing that, Jackie. The good thing is that there almost always things that merit legitimate praise.
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